At times, you might find that it becomes difficult to communicate with your elder family member. You may find yourselves at odds more often or you might feel as if you just can’t get your senior to understand what you’re trying to tell her.
Encourage Her to Use Assistive Devices
If your elder needs glasses, hearing aids, or other types of assistive devices that help her communicate, encourage her to use them. Many times your aging family member might dislike these aids or find them irritating to have to use. They’ll make her life easier, so it’s better to use them.
Match Your Body Language to What You’re Saying
Many people use body language that is closed down or otherwise different from what they’re actually saying. What happens when you do that with your elder, even accidentally, is that you confuse her and you make communication even more difficult. Look at your body language and make it as open and non-confrontational as possible.
Use Vocabulary Your Elder Understands
If you’re consistently using words and phrasing that your senior doesn’t understand, then communication is naturally going to be difficult. You don’t need to talk down to your elderly family member, but make sure that your word choices are matching up with what she understands for best results.
Avoid Fibbing or Outright Lying
Some caregivers try to sugarcoat situations or use fibs to get around having to tell their aging family member the whole truth. The problem with that is that the truth has a way of coming out. If your elderly family member feels that she can’t trust you, then future communications are going to be extremely difficult.
You can’t communicate well with your senior if you’re arguing with her. Some people simply like to argue, and if that describes your elderly family member, then you already know that she has that habit. Engaging in arguing behavior is just going to make it all worse.
Give Positive Feedback as Often as You Can
Most people do so much better when they’re exposed to positive feedback from the people they care about. Your aging adult is the same way. Take every opportunity that you can to give her encouraging feedback. You’ll both love the impact that has on your elder and her confidence.
If you’re still having trouble ask a neutral third party, such as elder care providers, help you determine where you’re missing the mark. They have experience in talking with aging adults and can often spot big obstacles that you’re hitting.
If you or an aging loved one are considering Elder Care Services in Salisbury NC, please contact the caring staff at TenderHearted Home Care today. (704) 612-4132.
I have enjoyed volunteering my time as the President of the Rowan County Home School Association, assisting with the Parkinson’s Support Group, Walk to End Alzheimer’s, Pregnancy Support Center, MOPS International, Capstone Recovery Center, Kairos Outside, Celebrate Recovery, various church committees and going on a mission trip to Moldova. I am a member of the Rowan County Council on Aging, Meals on Wheels board member, REACH of Rowan County, HIPSS of Davidson County, Second Tuesday Business Group and several Christian Business Life Groups.
I am passionate about serving others and providing the most compassionate care possible, as I would want for my own family. I love relaxing with my husband, Peter, and my two dogs, Yoyo and Terra Cotta.
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